HOW TO REDISCOVER YOURSELF
Insight into Self-Discover by Traveling Out, and In.
There is something very freeing once you find good company in yourself. For me, the realization that I will never truly be alone (after a lot of time alone) hit me like a refreshing gust of wind. On the contrary, it has not always been this simple. Trust me. This is coming from a girl who used to lie awake at night mortified of the impenetrable thought of everything involving loneliness. After I got over my fear of doing certain things alone in public, I rediscovered how much fun my own company is. It got to a point where I realized I don’t need anyone with me to have a good time.
Here are some ways to explore, not only the outside world, but your world within. After all, the sights and views and tastes and sounds will be so much more enjoyable if you are in good company.
But first… you know what time it is. Here is a curated playlist for today’s topics. If you are hedonistic like me, and need music to thrive and survive, this is for you.
Take Yourself on a date
One of the main reasons we feel we cannot be happy alone, is due to being single. Many have chosen to stay out of the dating circle, which has led to an inner-focus, and more alone time. When typing in "why is self love..." into Google, the first filler word that appeared was "better." The following search recommendation was "so painful." (Note: this is with my personalization settings turned off.) This result highlights the number of people who, like me, wanted to know why singledom is trending. The second most popular search resulted in a significant number of people who wanted to know why being single felt like a stab to the chest. Take this as you will.
Dating in solitude, like romanticized walks alone, and buying yourself flowers has become popular. As mental health became a central focus, turning inwards and practicing acts of kindness towards oneself has naturally been on-trend. Especially considering that no one can truly care for you, like you. So why not take a dip in the water, and try it?
Feeling uninspired? Here are some ideas for dates alone, or with another.
there is more than one type of love
Rom-cons do a toll, and can make it easy to forget the value in friendship and family love. This is not a message to turn down a date, however, obsessing over finding feelings of love through romance is equivalent to signing yourself up for disaster. Take it easy. Practice loving kindness on yourself and your day-one’s, before showering it on the crush. They can practice patience. That’s what I have been telling myself at least, and so far, I’ve been better. Whatever you choose regarding love, make sure it is honoring how YOU like to experience the wonders it has to offer.
get nostalgic
Discover hidden parts of yourself through sifting through photo albums, re-visiting places from your childhood, and investing time into creating the things that made you feel sparkly. If you are feeling lost, or are in a place of uncertainty like many battling their 20’s, getting nostalgic can be a good place to start. Whether it be games, crafts, or my personal favorite, painting, dipping your toes back into the pool of imagination can be a great reminder of what once was.
you read the homepage, get wild.
This statement can be interpreted in many different ways so to clarify, what I mean by this is do the things that you want to do but aren’t due to fear. In other words, your comfort zone is actually hurting you. Buy those tickets to that game you have been eyeing, dust off your bike and hit the trails, run, bake those muffins. I bring this up because fear of the unknown holds so many back from pursuing what could be considered magical. Through any of these endeavors, reminding myself to have fun, and not take myself so seriously has done wonders. What is stopping you from embodying your wild side?
Stay safe, stay wild, and have fun on your journey :)
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